We have all made resolutions, but how has that worked out for you? We really want to change this or that and are all fired up until we blow it, lose our motivation or just don’t take the steps necessary to make the change happen. We need to figure out how to implement the changes that we want to make so that we can increasingly learn to live our lives the way we truly want to live them!
- Set Your Intention
You will never know where you want to go if you don’t create a map. Be specific and comprehensive. Think about what you want in your life in 6 months to 2 years from now. Do this as if money doesn’t matter and no detail is silly. Consider all the areas of your life: Your Spiritual Practices, Your Social Life (friends, family, activities), Your Health & Wellness, Your Finances and Your Profession. Write down your authentic desires. Take some time with this. Have fun, daydream and use your imagination. Get in touch with your true self, the one that God created, that you were when you were a child and didn’t know how to be shoved into a role. Create a vision board or audio record yourself reading your vision out loud. Put this in front of you every morning to remind yourself who you are and where you are going.
- Lay Your Foundation
96% of our behavior is determined by our subconscious brain! Your subconscious is like your internal GPS system. If it is out of calibration, you will not be able to follow through on the things you consciously want to do. It is imperative that we retrain our subconscious to work for us.
The very first layer of your foundation is your self-esteem. We need to start treating ourselves as we would another person – better yet, a baby or a puppy. We look in the mirror all the time, checking out our appearance, but do we ever really see ourselves? EXERCISE: once a day look in the mirror and look into your own eyes as though you were looking at someone else. Practice talking to yourself. Tell yourself “I love you”. This sounds hokey, I know, but it is extremely powerful. Listen to what your inner self has to say without judgement and give yourself grace, acceptance and love. Partner up with your true, God-created self. This is the you that’s dying to get out and LIVE! Time for a ‘Get Out Of Jail’ card.
The second layer of your foundation is a brain washing, literally. We need to wash out the lies, fears and disabling beliefs that have been holding us back and replace them with empowering truths and beliefs. Do this by making sure to look at your intentional vision every day (do this morning and night for maximum results) and by reading inspiring things, hanging out with positive people, and limiting your exposure to time and soul sucking people and activities. Spend your time creating your life instead of numbing yourself though it with social media, TV, mood altering substances, etc.
- Create Your Plan
Get out your calendar and intentionally block out the time that you will devote to these changes. Think through what steps you will need to take to get you to your goals and ink them in. If you don’t hit a particular mark, reschedule it. This is a guideline, not a straitjacket. Every night before you go to bed, look at your next days plan so that you can be mentally prepared for it. Revisit it again in the morning before you start your day. Pray, meditate and ask God to partner with you to accomplish your goals and intentions for that day with joy, purpose and, most importantly, love.
If you truly follow these simple steps you can make the changes that last and live the lives that you dream! Please let me know if I can assist you in any way along your journey!
Have a Blessed and Joyous New Year!